How heavy are your thoughts?
/Do you think about your problems a lot? Of course you do, and by doing so you are changing them and probably making them worse.
Every time we access a memory, we change it. In numerous studies it has been found that the act of recalling a memory has the effect of distorting it in some way.
Over time, with sustained attention, the problems, pains and fears we suffer do tend to get worse.
Be aware of your thoughts, be aware of the feelings that your thoughts generate - are they positive or negative.
If your thoughts feel heavy, put them down for a while:
“A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
Remember to put the glass down.”